Advance Care Planning & Planning For The Future

 
Due to the Coronavirus Pandemic, there are more conversations happening around death, bereavement and planning for the future. Palliative, end of life and bereavement care professionals prepared to deal with stress and trauma can be invaluable at this time.

Coronavirus reminds us of our vulnerabilities and of our inter-connectedness to each other. We should prepare carefully, with compassion and care at the heart of our planning.

Talking about death does not hasten it. Conversations can help build a shared understanding of what matters to you most, and what matters to those around you. Plan for any possible difficult decisions that may arise, such as where and how you would like to be cared for towards the end of your life.

A conversation starter might include:
  • "What matters to me at the end of life is…"
Sharing this “what matters to me” sentence with those around you will be really helpful for beginning open and gentle conversations.

It may help to have very honest conversations with those people who are close to you:

“I don’t want to die yet but if I become so sick I might not survive:
  • I do/do not want to be at home
  • I want family to be with me/stay away
  • If a ventilator could save my life I would/wouldn’t want it
  • I understand that when my heart eventually stops, CPR may not work and I would not want it
  • Remember I love you. Thank you. I forgive our misunderstandings and hope you do too.
  • Now put the kettle on!”
Just one conversation can make all the difference but when you’re ready to talk more, think about who you might want to talk to. This could be a partner, spouse, family member, friend, faith leader, GP or other.

Advance Care Plan Guide

At St Leonard’s there are professionals experienced in supporting people with Advance Care Planning. We have developed an Advance Care Plan guide and template that you can download from our website that will help you begin your conversations as well as guide you through how to record them. Please feel free to download and print off the ACP and share appropriately.